Has your anxiety become so normalised that you no longer see it? How would you describe the impact anxiety has on you? Do you feel frazzled and nervous to the point that you can't sit still? Or filled with chronic worry that leads to catastrophising? Or perhaps for...
Do you often feel lonely, even though you are in a relationship? Scrolling through social media, it’s easy to believe that everyone else is having a wonderful time. Barbecues, beach days, holidays, family gatherings—photos of people smiling, huddled together in a...
It's impossible to live a life without regrets. Every day, you make choices. Most have little impact on the direction your life has taken. Yet some choices linger and keep you up in the middle of the night. There were days when you said something you wish you hadn't,...
How to let go of that awful feeling We have ALL made mistakes—I've made loads in my life! For a moment, think back to a BIG one whether it was recently or ages ago. Remember the moment you said, did, or didn’t say or do something that you now deeply regret. Perhaps...
Showing up as your authentic self is admirable, but is it possible in today's world? I like to think I am authentic, but under the spotlight, I can clearly see the times when I hide behind a smiley face. I’m naturally a positive, easy-to-smile, peaceful soul. I...
Discerning what is real and what is not is increasingly difficult. With the advent of AI and fake news reality is being blurred around the edges. Take, for example, celebrity photos. Those that have not been edited, are few and far between. Virtually all of them have...
Although we shy away from fear, it is essential to a healthy life. Fear heightens our senses, creates focus and guides us towards safety. Fear is our intuitive voice that tells us to run, shout, stay still, be silent, crouch, hide or do whatever is needed in that...
Are you stressed out? Or just a little stressed? Or do you shine when others complain they can't take it any more? Is there really good stress and harmful stress? And if you feel you're at breaking point, how can you re-balance yourself to feel good again? What is...
As the year comes to a close, I feel resistance about being grateful for 2020. It's a been challenging, heartbreaking and sad year. Yet, I also know how lucky I am, and how important it to celebrate this. How being grateful changes things within For the delightful,...
A breakup of a long term relationship is utterly horrible–especially if you didn't see it coming. And even if the decision to end the relationship was yours, it often hurts like crazy too. The hurt and pain need to be healed—and it takes time, but you can ease the...
How to heal arguments between you and your loved one Frequent tempestuous arguments or stony silences make life miserable. They make you feel unheard, unloved and unappreciated. So often your partner is in pain too. Even realising this, you still can’t fathom why they...
The following article on loneliness first appeared on my Red Dandelion website in 2013. It feels timely to share this slightly edited version, because it feels like more people are struggling with loneliness than ever before. Or perhaps people are being more open...
Healing a broken heart is tough because it hurts like no other pain. The sadness, loss, hurt and feeling bereft after a long term relationship has ended feels like the end of the world. Your heart aches physically, and your head can’t grasp what has happened. Thoughts...
Our life is full of noise. Taking time to be with yourself in silence is increasingly a rarity, but bringing silence into your life is very powerful.
Forgiving someone for betraying you in someway, can be very challenging. You may not even want to consider doing it! However, there are very good reasons for finding a way to forgive.
Have you had a conversation with yourself recently — an inner dialogue? One whereby two different voices where speaking inside of you—probably expressing very different views? I'm sure you have, and, no it doesn't mean that you're mad! We all have voices inside our...
Over the years I have learnt many different tools, methods and ways to help people feel better about themselves. Belly Breathing is a potent, fast way to calm nerves, reduce anxiety and feel on safer ground again. It can take less than 5 minutes to change from a...
Are you good enough — just as you are? The answer is definitely YES, but do you believe that? Mmm… perhaps on a good day? Why do we struggle so much to believe that that we are good enough just as we are? What drives us to see our imperfections so clearly and then...
We all carry around some emotional pain with us—it's part of being human. Sometimes we reach a point in our lives when the burden of carrying it becomes too much to bear, and cracks begin to appear in our lives. It's at this point that most people seek help via a...
Dance like no one is watching. Sing like no one is listening. Love like you have never been hurt and live like it’s Heaven on Earth—Mark Twain Being vulnerable conjures up an idea of weakness, of being naked, of being taken advantage of, and of having no power. And...
At the end of the day, I can end up just totally wacky, because I’ve made mountains out of molehills. With meditation, I can keep them as molehills—Ringo Starr These days meditation is a regular part of my life, but it wasn’t always so. I remember the time, more than...
I’ve been wondering, is it possible to be 100% in integrity with your values and beliefs 100% of the time? And if not, where do you draw your line in the sand?
