Written by Jennie on January 4, 2016.
My first Christmas party this year was on December 5th. After a month of parties, a big family get-together, more meals-out than usual, and a big, delicious, wonderful Christmas Dinner cooked by my daughter, it wasn’t a surprise to find I had gained weight. And it’s OK. It’s just what happens at Christmas. It’s just temporary: not weight I need to carry for life—or even for very long. I have learnt to accept this is how it is at the beginning of January and I would like for you to learn how to do this too.
STEP 1: ACCEPTANCE AND FORGIVENESS
In the early days of the New Year there is often a desire to instantly shed the pounds gained over Christmas: to make yourself slim overnight. I know how this feels, and I also know that when I ask you to step into acceptance and forgiveness many of you want to discard this advice and rush into some kind of ‘doing’ activity like joining a gym, buying the latest weight loss tablets or beginning a crash diet. Please, please don’t do the last 2 actions and only join a gym if you enjoy gyms. This step of acceptance and forgiveness is harder to do because it’s about ‘being’ not ‘doing’ yet it is one of the most important steps you can take, especially after the over-indulgences of the Christmas.
Let’s look at this in more detail. When you get weighed in January (and by the way, if you haven’t done this yet, please do) what is your reaction? Do you feel sad? Angry? Do you beat yourself up? Do you hate yourself for over indulging? If you are nodding your head—then this is where I want for you to let go of all the negativity and accept this is your weight today. It just is what it is. Being sad, angry or mad with yourself won’t change your weight. Could you have gone through December and Christmas making better eating and drinking choices? Maybe—but perhaps not. The truth is that although Christmas is hyped up as being a time of joy and happiness, it’s not always such a rosy picture. Stress, anxiety, sadness and loneliness are commonly experienced during this time—and this often leads to over-eating and drinking. Or maybe your over-indulgences were from being so happy you got carried away with all the delicious food available.
No matter which your path was through December, you did the best you could do at that time. Let go of beating yourself up or punishing yourself as it will only make you feel worse and ultimately that means you are less likely to succeed in weight loss. Accepting your weight today as your starting point for the year is just what it is.
If you really over-indulged, then please forgive yourself. You are not a robot. We are biologically programmed to eat more at this time of the year: for our ancestors it was how they got through the winter. The fact there is now food available 24/7 doesn’t counter these primal urges. And if you feel you really let yourself down, then from this experience learn from it now so that for next Christmas you have a plan to both enjoy and yet not go wildly over the top.
Changing your perception in this way sets you free. Now you are ready, gently because the energy at this time of the year is low, to begin doing something positive for your weight loss. And my next note on Stocking Up On Goodness will help you do this.
Eat Well—Be Well 🙂
P.S. If getting weighed is really scary for you, see: Are you afraid of your bathroom scales?
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